First Job Interview & Helicopter Parents

photo posted on post-gazette.comThis post was written by a Dacri & Associates client and posted on March 13, 2014

I received this email below from one of my clients. She was obviously frustrated. I thought her message was valuable and asked if I could post it. She reluctantly agreed, but only if I did not reveal her name or company (a family of restaurants).  What do you think about what she has to say? Let us know in the comment section.

“You need to write something…blog it….shout it from the roof tops!  PARENTS….I know you love your children and want to help them…BUT PLEEEEEZ!!!!!!!  Teach them how to apply for a job….ALONE.  DO NOT CALL FOR THEM.  DO NOT ACCOMPANY THEM IN TO THE BUSINESS and ask for the application for them….while they stand timidly behind you.  Role play with them at home.  Practice filling out applications…you can find templates on the internet!  If you need to drive them to apply…WAIT IN THE CAR.

Please parents, do your children this favor and teach them to be independent!!  I personally would rather see someone applying for their first job be a bit nervous but independently trying, than to have a parent come in and do all the talking.  I definitely would not hire anyone who applies in this manner either!”



Filed under How to, Management, Recruitment

2 responses to “First Job Interview & Helicopter Parents

  1. So true! The employer isn’t hiring the parent either directly or as appendage. And they don’t want to deal with the image of a hovering parent in the workplace.

    As an employer, I once had a parent bring their child to apply for a job posting that clearly stated “ability to manage independently”. Parent and child showed up without appointment, parent stood beside child answering basic questions for child such as, is this your first job application? Parent became upset when I suggested that a great first job opportunity existed at my competitor up the street – gift wrapping for the holidays – terrific opportunity to learn about interacting with sometimes particular customers etc. Ah well, parent knew with certainty that this child’s first job-ever could be to manage a 1,500 sf high-end retail operation independently after all, it’s retail, how hard could that be?

    Helping your child involves letting them use the wings you’ve helped them grow, recognizing your biases probably don’t apply, having realistic expectations, providing support, coaching, sitting in the parking lot, not judging if it doesn’t work out at first, encouraging next steps.

    Thank you, Rick for a spot-on piece particularly as Maine employers begin staffing up for the busy season! 🙂

  2. As a hiring consultant, I posted an insurance job for a client and received a phone call from the father of a potential candidate,both worked in the insurance industry. The father had questions about the position and wanted to find the “next right opportunity” for his son — a college graduate who had a few years of experience. I refused to talk with the father and identified the son to my clients so they could avoid him in the future. The kid needs to change careers and move across the country. This is what happens to parents who won’t let go.

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